“how it's almost like um how much effort is this going to take and how much impact is going to come from it... I think what I've realized is that the the more I say yes to things the less I can actually show up to things and so I'm I'm looking at like I'm actually doing a a disservice to others if I'm saying yes to everything it's actually a disservice”

Saying yes to everything is a disservice — use effort × impact to filter opportunities

When opportunities multiply, the kind founder reflex is "yes to everything." That actually betrays the people you already committed to — you stop being able to show up. Score every new ask on two axes: effort (calendar + emotional cost) and impact (revenue / platform / making real difference). Anything not in the high-impact / reasonable-effort quadrant becomes a no, regardless of how flattering the ask.