“I thought that resilience was having a terrible situation finding the Silver Lining and like moving on and he really taught me that it's like no girl like you haven't dealt with it you haven't processed it... if you are really struggling you feel like you should be able to talk about something and you aren't yet I would say it's because you haven't given yourself time to grieve”

Process grief before you write about it — silver-linings aren't healing

If a topic still hurts to write about, the right move isn't to publish through it for content — it's to grieve it first. Silver-lining narratives skip the processing step and end up storing the experience in your body unprocessed (per her therapist). The healthy sequence: feel the loss fully, give yourself time, then write — and the writing becomes integration rather than performance. Don't monetize unprocessed pain.