“I've had you know very powerful men say this to me they say I'm really sought after in business I'm very successful but when I get home my partner it's like an ice cave you know there's no connection there and I just want to feel connected”

Public success can coexist with a private ice cave

External founder success masks a brutal isolation at home. The same person commanding rooms all day can come home to 'an ice cave,' and the gap between public authority and private disconnection becomes its own kind of impostor syndrome — usually invisible to peers because nobody talks about it.