“do so much cold mailing cold messaging honestly what I tell other friends and founders is that if you haven't been banned in these platforms at least two times you haven't tried enough”

If platforms haven't banned you twice, you haven't outreached enough

Set your outreach effort threshold by platform bans, not by message counts. If Instagram, LinkedIn, or X hasn't flagged you twice for excessive DMs during validation, you're being too polite or too slow. The ban is the leading indicator that you've finally hit enough volume to get statistically meaningful response signal — and an indicator you're bumping against the ceiling of what a single founder can do manually before you need to switch tactics.